More thoughts on my learning

The biggest takeaway for me on NLP was think in the Desired state,

Can we think only about what we want all the time, yes we do have the power to always think of what we want!!

How do I as a trainer ensure my participants think in Desired state?

If we want someone to do something, we should make sure we are practicing it in the first place.

When I am training the candidates I always talk to them on what is that they need to do, I ensure the presentations are always carrying pointers on "Do's" and there are no "DONT'S".

For example : In genral I have seen presentations carrying "DONT" join the training late, However I will tell my people "Please join the training on time" and I have seen my participants were always almost on time!!!

Trainer in me

 Hi Sir, wanted to thank you once again. 

When I started learning NLP I always used to think how will I incorporate this at work 

and now,

I am really seeing my self helping people, training them in my own field and I am using whatever I have learnt from you. There are places where I am starting to ask people to think and talk in thier desired state, when I do that I know  what I am doing, I am using what I learnt from you and I know I am bringing about change in the other person in a very subtle yet powerful way. 

I will continue to write more on my experience in this journey....

NLP journey 2

 

Once a little child decided to walk through a forest. She knew the forest is an abudant forest and she can get all she wants from it during her walk. She could see that she was not alone in the forest but few like her who also wanted to explore the forest. They all joined hands and as they started thier first step each of them where able to easily see the treasure they were holding within themselves through the mirror that this forest held for them.

The little child realised there was a bigger purpose in her travel. As she came across this magic place she encountered her biggest fears in life, and this time she faced those fears gently and as she faced it she saw a new person within her. She realised the potential she had to fight her fears and now she wanted to go out of this forest and help as many people as she can to encounter thier fears and let go of it just as she did 

My Eternal Bond

 The first time this piece of metal touched my finger I had an adrenaline rush, it felt heavier than it looked, for I knew that it's not just a piece of metal, but the symbol of love of the man who has accepted to be there by myside through thick and thin. From that moment I decided I would never shed the first form of his love from my hands ever, and I would carry it always just like how I carry his love in my heart. When one fine day I realised the ring was missing in my hands, I felt it deep down in me, I cursed myself for not even noticing it when it drifted down my fingers. But I knew it would come in search of me and this keepsake would not leave my fingers easily, today morning when the sight of the ring reached my eyes I had small drops of tears. I never went in search of it physically but my subconscious search for it helped me reach it.

When I write this I'm reminded of Paulo coelho's words: "when you want something the whole world conspires in helping you achieve it'

The Season of Judgment

It's that time of the year when everyone of us will be judged for the work that we have been doing in the last one year. Be it an LKG kid or the CEO of a multinational company, this is the month when our work is weighed and judged and we are scaled by our performances. It is absolutely fine if you feel your misjudged by someone. It is ok for an LKG kid if he/she cannot recite a rhyme at the end of the academic year, and it is equally fine if a manager doesn't meet few of his goals and objectives in  a year. If you fail miserably this year it doesn’t mean you have failed your life. Every one of us were born to fulfill higher objectives by God, than what your mark sheets or appraisals at work talk about. The purpose in life is to live true to yourself and to the work that you are destined to do everything else will fall in place, as the saying goes "if you want something the world conspires in helping you achieve it". Do not base your life's objectives with that of the work or school, flunking in a year or being chucked out of a company is not the end of life. In fact such failures give you better experiences and opportunities for you to learn from every miserable decisions that led to such failures. To every little kid who has faced annual exams for the first time, to every anxious adolescent who has faced your board's for the first time, to every fellow companion who are facing appraisals at work, never let anyone judge you in life, always YOU be your own manager and keep appraising you for a better YOU.

Howling success

The picture says it all!! The colours, my little rabbit has brought into my life!!
Ten months of anxiety and nine hours of labor!! You made me unconcious with your little cry!! That's all I knew when I was in ICU!!
First month I never knew how to carry you!!
Second month I dint know how to feed you!!
Third month I still had difficulty in feeding you, but you somehow managed to adjust with this new lady and you started recoginizing I was your mom!!
Fourth month you took me by surprise when you rolled over for the first time!! By now you also knew how to smile.
Fifth month sleepless nights began to dawn, late night feedings made our bond strong!!
Sixth month you learnt to crawl and for your  half birthday you were dressed like a doll!!
Seventh month was the first time you ate food and you were a pro at it, "Go bananas" was an idiom that you took too seriously!!
Eight month you first hit the sea to see sunset and thus you became a part of our regular outings!!
Nine months you managed to stand holding on to me and to hear you utter "Amma" was a bliss!!
Ten months you started to own your first set of friends and you also learnt how to make a mess with your toys!!
Eleven months was the hardest phase for me to leave you and join work, but you so confidently said bye and assured me our bonding and love will only grow stronger no matter what this world throws upon us!!
One year I have unlearnt what this adulthood has thaught me and from your childish charm I have learnt to smile and be happy and to keep learning from every small thing in this world!!